Here is a very recent article about intimacy from a male perspective. It strikes me that one value of the internet and its free following exploitation and exploration of human sexuality is that one can find hard-won honest insight. This article is a great example.

The challenge of living in an age of easy sex, (Internet Pornography, Sexting, Hook-up Apps, etc) is in learning how to be a real human being and not just a vehicle for sexual exploitation. Intimacy takes practice.

In his book Guyland Michael Kimmel address young adult, white male culture. It includes an insightful chapter on how pornography undermines a healthy movement from boyhood to manhood.