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You Are Not Alone

Treatment

Thousands of people suffer through the trauma of sexual addiction. Most struggle in secret. You may be lost in a swirl of confusing and often overwhelming feelings from anger and rage to shame and despair. But you are not alone. We live in a hypersexual culture. This has contributed to a crisis of healthy sexual expression in our society.

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The Partner Experience

Treatment

You may have experienced something like this. You sit down at the computer you share with your partner. You can’t remember where you filed a document so you begin looking through file folders stored on the computer. You click a file with a name you don’t recognize. Suddenly you are presented with pornographic images too numerous to count.

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The Scary Truth

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Parents have always found “the sex talk” challenging. But it didn’t used to be the case that by the time they had the talk,…
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How do I know if I have a sex addiction?

Addiction

Despite the growing body of research that sexual addiction is a growing problem, there are those who continue to debate the question of whether certain sexual behavior is appropriately characterized as an addiction. It is difficult for the layperson to identify where the debate stands.

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American College of Pediatricians Statement on Pornography Use

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The American College of Pediatricians recently released a statement on The Impact of Pornography on Children. This national organization is committed to the well-being of children. It mission is to produce sound policy, based upon the best available research, to help parents and influennce social norms in the interests of the health of children.

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The Partner Matters

Treatment

In the cultural narrative of sexual addiction, all attention gets focused on the person struggling with the addiction. The spouse or partner is often pushed to the side. When attention is directed to the spouse it is often accompanied by either pity or blame. But the partner matters.

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Me Plus You Equals Health and Healing

Treatment

The disclosure of betrayal is often a sudden, explosive experience that can leave a spouse shattered. It is as if the person you have trusted to hold you up, suddenly abandons you to fall crashing to the ground. This is why. . . .

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The Experience of Betrayal

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Intimacy involves an element of risk. As two people draw close, they expose more vulnerable aspects of their personality.

This exposure, though risky is also deeply affirming. When I share with you parts of me of which I am ashamed, and you respond with loving kindness, I experience a lit bit of healing. But then one day — out of the blue — I discover things are not as they seem.

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Friends

Treatment

“Those who quickly show the marks of friendship to each other wish to be friends,” Aristotle said. “But they are not friends unless they both are lovable and know the fact; for a wish for friendship may arise quickly, but friendship does not.”

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