“I would rather know the truth. I can deal with the truth much better than not knowing. If I only knew the full truth from A to Z, I wouldn’t feel like I’m going crazy.”

I can’t tell you how often I’ve heard statements just like this, from partners of sex addicts. So often, partners have been deceived time after time and trust in the relationship was bruised and battered.

How do you rebuild after it feels like your your life has just erupted in a hot ball of flame?

This video provides good, practical advise for husbands who have exploded their marriage. When a person trapped in an addiction surveys the destruction that has resulted from the consequences of their behavior, it is important to remember: It is not your FAULT. But it IS your responsibility.

You have discovered your partner may be struggling with a sexual addiction. He may be asking you to keep your experience a secret. He may tell you his job or his reputation is at risk – and it may well be. But this does not justify his request to require you to bear your burden alone. You are struggling with “betrayal trauma”. Betrayal trauma festers in isolation.

Parents have always found “the sex talk” challenging. But it didn’t used to be the case that by the time they had the talk,…

Human beings flourish in relationship with other human beings. The religious traditions have always known this. The scientific tradition identifies this when it describes…

Our behavior shapes our brain. What we do on the outside, changes how our brain works on the insisde. Sexual activity releases certain chemicals…

The American College of Pediatricians recently released a statement on The Impact of Pornography on Children. This national organization is committed to the well-being of children. It mission is to produce sound policy, based upon the best available research, to help parents and influennce social norms in the interests of the health of children.

Intimacy involves an element of risk. As two people draw close, they expose more vulnerable aspects of their personality.

This exposure, though risky is also deeply affirming. When I share with you parts of me of which I am ashamed, and you respond with loving kindness, I experience a lit bit of healing. But then one day — out of the blue — I discover things are not as they seem.

Terry Gorski pioneered the study of relapse prevention by his observation of people in recovery for substance use. He was the first to describe relapse as a process rather than an event. He helpfully defined relapse as “becoming dysfunctional in recovery”. He described nine stages of relapse. Now, in a paper published in the Yale Journal of Bioloby and Medicine Steven Melemis updates Gorski’s model by consolidating Gorski’s nine stages of relapse into three stages.