A most helpful short video on the addiction and pornography.

What role does media play in the challenge to address sexual addiction? Let’s begin with the obvious. There is money is to be made in the objectification of women in service of the exploitation of men.

There is something going on in our culture that puts both men and women, and boys and girls at risk. Our hypersexual culture is undermining our health. Both males and females are at risk but from different directions.

Despite the growing body of research that sexual addiction is a growing problem, there are those who continue to debate the question of whether certain sexual behavior is appropriately characterized as an addiction. It is difficult for the layperson to identify where the debate stands.

It is time for the Ashley Madison furor to stop. Here is the story, and it is not what you think.

Maturity is the ability to engage reality. When we are young, we spend most of our time in fantasy. Fantasy is an imaginative representation of the world. It is a world I create to serve my needs. We overcome the challenge of engaging reality over time.

Advertising is a form of pornographic expression. When an advertisement portrays drinking milk as a means to fulfillment and happiness, it is exploitative. The difference between the milk advertisement and pornography is that human sexuality reaches deeply into the dopamine system of the brain and rewires the pleasure center so that one’s orientation to sex becomes disordered in a way that it does not become disordered when you drink milk.

Here is a very recent article about intimacy from a male perspective. It strikes me that one value of the internet and its free following exploitation and exploration of human sexuality is that one can find hard-won honest insight. This article is a great example.