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Boundaries and Sexual Addiction Part 2: Mind/Body Dualism

Treatment

When boundary violators struggle with sexual addiction, they suffer a similar violation in boundaries inside themselves. This make treatment of sexual addiction particularly challenging. People who struggle with sexual addiction experience a significant split in their Mind/Body experience. Rather than knowing themselves as whole people with healthy Mind/Body integration, they become one person having two parts — a Mind and a Body.

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Boundaries and Sexual Addiction Part 1: Violation

Treatment

Sexual Addiction is a complex disorder that requires specialized training to treat. In this series of posts we are exploring what one element that makes this disorder so challenging. People who struggle with sexual addiction also struggle with boundaries. A “boundary” defines personal space. When we recognize and honor boundaries we accept the simple fact that the other person is worthy of respect.

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Three Circles of Influence

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Media culture influences everyone. It informs who we are and who we become. Many are trapped by our hypersexualized culture. It begins when we are young, long before we have the knowledge to make careful choices in our live. Media culture is a major influence. But it is not the only influence. Each of us become who we are by way of the interaction of three influences that are constantly in play. Think of them as three concentric circles of influence.

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The Trap

Addiction

What role does media play in the challenge to address sexual addiction? Let’s begin with the obvious. There is money is to be made in the objectification of women in service of the exploitation of men.

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Culture of Risk, Culture of Decay

Addiction

There is something going on in our culture that puts both men and women, and boys and girls at risk. Our hypersexual culture is undermining our health. Both males and females are at risk but from different directions.

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The Signs and Symptoms of Sexual Addiction

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Dr. Milton Magness explores the signs and symptoms of sexual addiction. He answers the questions, “How can I tell if someone is a ‘sex addict?'” Although there is no definitive answer, there are clues. Once a person suspects their partner may be struggling with sexual addiction, what should they do? No one can make a person struggling with an addiction seek treatment, but everyone can learn to keep themselves safe. They can learn to set heathy boundaries. They can challenge their partner to seek help.

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Addiction: Habit Gone Wrong

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Efficiency is the brain’s goal. Habits are the way it achieves it. A discipline a beneficial behavior that the brain has taken up as a habit to advance your life’s goals and purpose. An addiction is a risky behavior that the brain has taken up as a habit, that puts it all at risk. Here is how it works.

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Bo Eason on Shame and Focus

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How do I get back on course when I get off track? Why am I always wondering off the path? Is there really any hope for me? These questions plague our clients. But not just our clients, these questions plague us. They plague all of us. Getting off track is not the problem of a few. It is the challenge of us all. Former NFL football star Bo Eason share’s his perspective.

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Defining Healthy Intimacy

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Many are surprised when they learn that healthy intimacy is not about the absence of conflict. It is the engagement of conflict in a healthy way. You do not normally argue with polite strangers, distant relatives, or friendly acquaintances at work. You save arguments for the people you care about the most. This, for the simple reason that conflict is a very personal and intimate act.

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The “Health” in Healthy Intimacy

Treatment

The effects of healthy intimacy on physical health are being proved and documented on a regular basis. As researchers continue to work, confirmation of the benefits of healthy intimacy continue to build. Couples who have learned to invest in healthy intimacy not only multiply their joy and cut their sorrows in half, they enjoy greater physical health as well.

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The Hope of Intimacy

Treatment

Every person longs to be acknowledged and recognized as a person of value. The gift we give each other is the opportunity to share one another’s “shade”, to find shelter in one other’s word of encouragement, affirmation, and blessing.

This is the hope of healthy intimacy.

The hope of healthy intimacy, however, carries with it the responsibility to journey with that part of one’s partner that is difficult – their “shadow side”. In these the most challenging moments of our relationship, we experience the growth that draws us closer.

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